3 Nonverbal Gestures that Will Change Your Romantic Relationship Forever

Have you ever thought about the mix messages that you’re sending your partner during a conversation? Your nonverbal gestures could be sending a message you didn’t intend. Make these 3 simple changes and redefine the way you communicate in a romantic relationship.

Keep your hands folded in front or your arms on your side


Personal Trainer Wisdom: Have you ever been in an argument while keeping your hands folded in front of you? Probably not. If you’re like most people, you become animated when upset: Arms flailing, convulsive head ticks, and a blend of sitting, standing, and fidgeting. Does this reaction typically help the situation? The answer is never yes.

Whether you intend to or not, your reaction probably makes your partner feel defensive (which could filter the message you’re trying to communicate). The biggest threat: Your hands! During your next conversation with your partner, move your arms and watch his eyes follow your hands. He’s worried about your hands and what they’ll do next (something to compromise his safety???)! It’s a protective instinct (like a warrior), and it places him in a defensive mode (even if it’s only unconscious).

Even if your nonverbal gestures aren’t an interpretative dance of the devil, placing your hands on your hips or folding your arms might reflect discontent, anger, disgust, and boredom, too. If this is your intent, shame on you and save the show for the stage. Most likely, though, you’re doing this unconsciously and don’t realize the effect of your nonverbal gestures.

Perform a check-in during your conversations. Ask yourself: What message are you sending with your physical position or reactions? You can offer your attention without expressing confrontational mannerisms. Try sitting with your hands folded in front of you (shows patience and attentive listening) or standing with your arms on your side (a non-combative stance). Communication in a relationship requires trust and security. Don’t undermine this safe zone and muddle your message with nonverbal gestures you didn’t intend.

Face your partner with your shoulders squared


Personal Trainer Wisdom: Similar to the placement of your hands and arms, your hips could tell a very different nonverbal story. When you turn your body away from your partner, you could be signaling that you’re about to run away (which could be true) or about to fight her in a martial arts match. Most importantly, you’re not showing your vulnerability with the display of your full torso (think opening yourself to someone instead of closing yourself off). Make your partner believe that she’s safe during this conversation and that you’re fully interested in what she says. Keep your hips parallel to her hips and square your shoulders in an upright position.

Look your partner in the eyes while speaking and listening (assuming you listen :) )


Personal Trainer Wisdom: Nothing shows more respect to another human being (and dog) than looking at them in the eyes during a conversation. It’s another sign of attentiveness and respect. Most people find this nonverbal gesture the most challenging because they feel inferior or intimidated by the other person. I often find myself looking away to find a thought (as if I could picture the word I’m grasping for in my mind). Your reason may not be out of disrespect to the other person either. Nevertheless, it is the most regarded in any personal or professional setting. Your eye contact says, “I respect you…I’m listening to you”….a very important nonverbal message when building intimacy in any relationship. Practice and stop overthinking.

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Author: Michael Moody Fitness
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5 Morning Habits That Have Made Me More Successful (and Less Stressed)

If you find your life chaotic, stressful, and unproductive, you may need to rethink your morning routine. Here are 5 morning habits that have made me successful (and less stressed).

Perform the same wake up routine every morning


Personal Trainer Wisdom: This tip is the most important to keep in mind. Chances are that you’ll craft a routine that’s personal for you (which you should). What’s most important is that you stick to it. Not only will you minimize your decision fatigue, but you're also starting your day in a well-structured manner (instead of your typical chaotic run-around that starts your day on a stressful note). The key to your productivity and happiness will mostly depend on your autopilot behaviors…the behaviors that really steer your time. If they are ineffective and anxiety-producing, any positive effort outside of them will be fruitless.

Wake up at the same time every day…without snoozing


Personal Trainer Wisdom: Your body operates on a circadian rhythm. In fact, it depends on it to run effectively and efficiently. Any time you go to bed or wake up at different times, you keep your body guessing. If you wake up at the same time every morning, on the other hand, your body will become accustomed to this habit and efficiently release hormones up to 3 hours before to slowly wake you (while allowing the proper rest your organs need). I repeat an important statement for my snoozers: Efficiently release hormones up to 3 hours to slowly wake you. Moral of the story: Let your body wake you naturally. Snoozing only breaks up your REM sleep and leaves you drowsy (and the REM sleep is the valuable sleep you need for recovery). Any sleep you achieve post-snooze is a tease and a waste since it takes up to 45 minutes to achieve REM sleep again. If you set your alarm for 7:00 am and snooze until 7:30 am, do everyone else in the house a favor and just set it for 7:30 am. Just be sure to run out of bed as if there’s a fire in the house to resist the urge to sleep longer.

Perform the same lineup of getting ready


Personal Trainer Wisdom: Why waste time thinking about everything you have left to do while walking around like a sleepless zombie (yes, I know: redundant)? Take the guesswork out of your morning lineup. You’re less likely to forget to do something and more likely to minimize the frantic run-around before you leave. And you’ll be efficient! Here’s my lineup:

-Shut off the alarm.
-Run to the bathroom with my work clothes as if the bed was on fire.
-Put in my contacts.
-Shave my face.
-Rub on “Make my Face 20 Years Younger” lotion.
-Fix my hair.
-Brush my teeth while starting the coffee maker.
-Etc., etc., etc.,

I perform this lineup every morning (weekends, too). Your list should be just as structured and detailed.

Prepare at least 2 meals for the day


Personal Trainer Wisdom: The healthiest people prepare their meals. Unless you’re Tom Brady or Angelina Jolie, you probably need to wear the chef hat in the morning. If you don’t, you’re taking a chance on takeout or restaurant service. I make 3 meals each morning between 7:10 and 7:25: Meal 1, meal 2, and meal 3. That’s right folks…my eating regiment sounds like a feeding regiment for a thoroughbred. Using a blend of fresh or frozen vegetables, prepared or canned beans, nuts, seeds, and a small ratio of animal protein, I’m able to efficiently make my meals for the day in only 15 minutes (and you can too).

Don't forget that one of these meals must be breakfast. I don’t budge on this rule. You should never start your day on a deficit. If you disagree, ask yourself this: Do you not eat breakfast because...

1.) you never have time?
2.) you’re stressed and lose your appetite easily?
3.) you want to save the calories for overindulges later in the day?
4.) your favorite celebrity does it, or a friend unscientifically happen to lose weight while cutting out breakfast?

You probably answered “yes” to at least one of these questions. Before you say “I don’t do that,” you may want to reevaluate the reasons why. More times than not, the reason is convenience, you're unwilling to adapt, or another intent unrelated to optimal health.

Read a book (not a screen) while you eat breakfast


Personal Trainer Wisdom: I’ve hit a wall here…I’m truly struggling to come up with interesting reasons to sell the act of reading to you. Sadly, most people need to be convinced to read even though it’s pivotal to our learning process, helps us organize our thoughts, and contributes to a greater vocabulary and problem solving ability. Even though the act of reading isn’t sexy, the most successful people in the world are constant learners (and readers). If that doesn’t entice you, reading can also help you create more mental space by narrowing your focus and reducing your stress. Most importantly, it forces you to slow down your life for a moment (you can’t run around and read a book at the same time…although I’ve seen people try on the treadmill).

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Blog.bookbaby.com–Is coffee the only thing you need to charge your day?

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Author: Michael Moody Fitness
5 Morning Habits That Have Made Me More Successful (and Less Stressed)
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