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3 Tools to Dramatically Improve Your Romantic Relationship

Optimal health extends beyond your time in a personal trainer’s studio. If you spend an extra effort on your relationships, you might be surprised how your overall well-being is improved as well. No matter if your romantic relationship is sound or a struggle, here are 3 tools to dramatically change that dynamic today.

The 5 Love Languages Personal Profile for Couples


Personal Trainer Wisdom: Although you can ambitiously read the book of the same name, I highly recommend taking this free quiz online at 5lovelanguages.com. It will help you identify the love languages (words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch) that you value the most. Why is this important? If your partner values “acts of service” the most (like making dinner together), it may not matter how many bunches of flowers you buy him or her. Although you value “receiving gifts” the most, it doesn’t mean your partner will too. How often have you heard someone say (or said yourself), “It doesn’t matter what I do, he never appreciates it.” I ask you: Do you really know what he appreciates or value the most? Perhaps, all your partner wants is “physical touch”…a hug to show your continued interest in him. You can see how easily this lack of communication or awareness can compound into many nonsense arguments.

I recommend that you and your partner individually take this quiz and then discuss your scores. Although you’re not instructed to breakdown each of your answers, I highly suggest you do this. The two of you may share the same the answer but may have a completely different mindset approaching the scenario. Essentially, take the guesswork out of the relationship and learn how your partner approaches a scenario and what he or she values the most.

My Life Story: A Visual Map


Personal Trainer Wisdom: The ‘My Life Story Map’ left a lasting impression on my wife and I before our wedding last year. It helped us recognize the defining moments in our past and understand how they have shaped us. Although we utilized the ‘A Visual Map for Reflecting on My Past’ diagram by Sibyl Towner and Sharon Swing, you can certainly create your own. Basically, you and your partner will draw and write a timeline of your life on separate pieces of paper. At the top and middle of your page, draw a horizontal (parallel) line. On the top line, write the years of your life that correlate with the important events that you describe on the middle line. The middle line should reflect events, people, places, vocations, avocations, and more. You can record these events above or below this middle line depending on whether the event is perceived as a positive event (above) or negative event (below). As you try to determine the most noteworthy events, ask yourself the following questions: Which events elicitated the biggest emotional response? Which events were most responsible for your personal and professional approach today? Which events specifically affected your relationships with others today? When did you feel the most insecure and weak or secure and powerful? What were the biggest turning points or decisions that steered your life the most?

You may certainly personalize this timeline however you see fit. Honesty is most important (with yourself and partner). Evaluate how these life occurrences affected you and write that down. For example, my parent’s divorce had a profound effect on my life. Unfortunately, it shaped a negative perspective on relationships for a long time (conflict management, displays of affection, etc). At the same time, while moving after my parent’s divorce was certainly a great challenge at the age of 12, I became more adaptable in a number of different environments. I became more curious. Think about these long term effects on my life! I now love travel and feel comfortable exploring and interacting with the unknown world. What events in your life have shaped you? Not only is this a great way to see a timeline of your life on paper, but it is also an opportunity to see what has influenced how you behave, perceive, or generally approach the world. Take this time to learn about yourself while helping your partner understand you.

A Hug


Personal Trainer Wisdom: The root of all life is interaction…and nothing is easier or cheaper than a hug! Even if you don’t have the right words, a simple hug could express how you feel. It also shows your vulnerability to your partner as well as physically connecting to him or her.

Photo Credit:
The wonderful and talented Elizabeth Nord (Photography)–My wife, Sammy, and I still remind ourselves of the promises we made on our wedding day (and you should always too). A solid foundation always requires honesty, communication, and self-awareness.

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Author: Michael Moody Fitness
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5 Lessons You Need to Incorporate Into Your Life Today

Whether you’ve hit a challenging point or just want to enhance the path you’re on, you need to incorporate these lessons into your life today.

When you meet a challenge personally or professionally, ask yourself "How can I simplify this?"


Personal Trainer Wisdom: Surprisingly, the answer to minimizing the stress or demand of any situation could be as easy as simplifying it...stripping it down to the skeleton. We're often too overwhelmed when analyzing irrelevant or insignificant details and chasing fruitless paths in circles. Do you truly know the foundation of this problem? What factors are worth the most attention to solve it? What information is missing? Returning to the basics may lead to a fundamental answer. Don't move forward until you understand the root/intent of your focus and prioritize the most important elements.

Find what nobody else wants to do and do it


Personal Trainer Wisdom: When you need to create value for yourself, step forward with pride, bravery, and diligence and do the things that most people avoid. People will notice you among the masses and see you in a different light.

Remember that "a problem is a terrible thing to waste" (Peter Diamonds)


Personal Trainer Wisdom: At what one point, I avoided problems or approached them with great haste. Why waste these opportunities to learn something new about someone else, your environment, or yourself though? You will develop a generalizable problem-solving ability and foster the mindset and skillset to handle future demands with more confidence and ability.

It's ok to pivot rather than completely give up your dream


Personal Trainer Wisdom: Have you ever started a book and by page 100 realized you hate it...but continued to read and finish it anyway? I have (too many times) because I value persistence and resiliency! I will not give up...on anything...ever!!!! Is it always necessary to follow through with every goal or project though? Do you really need to finish that self-help book when you might find the answer you're looking for in another one (try Redefine Yourself :))? While it may seem like a badge of honor always to finish what you start, there are times when your effort is best used elsewhere (especially if the path is stressful or destructive). This couldn't be more applicable to your career or any dream in particular. I learned to pick a path and stick to it until death. Is that what we should do though? I don't believe we give ourselves enough leniency. At times in our lives, special circumstances necessitate a pivot...especially if you don't feel a sense of purpose or fulfillment. While I understand that you may have already invested a lot into this path (i.e., education, time, money, bragging, etc.), is it worth being miserable? You don't need to give up your dream or career completely. Perhaps you can still teach but not in a classroom of kids (corporate speaking or presentations). Perhaps you can still practice law but not in a private firm (state's attorney office). Your path doesn't need to be linear, but it should move forward productively and happily (why not?). Adjust when needed.

Remember that winners fail all of the time


Personal Trainer Wisdom: We accumulate wisdom through error and the most successful entrepreneurs fail all the time. Learn from your failures to take the right approach. You never know what that experience will teach you.

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My Healthy Living Coach .com–Is the answer to your happiness between the trees?

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Author: Michael Moody Fitness
5 Lessons You Need to Incorporate Into Your Life Today
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